Each of the TALK tools follows a standard format, divided into Fast Facts; Teens: Let’s Talk; Parents: Keep Talking; and Resources. For example, “Fast Facts” on the Healthy Relationships TALK Tool offers the following normalizing information about adolescent romantic relationships:
- It’s normal to start exploring romantic relationships or start to date between ages 11-14. It’s also normal not to.
- One in 10 teens experiences violence in a relationship. This is not okay.
- A key ingredient in healthy sexual relationships at all ages is consent. Whether you’re holding hands, kissing, touching, having sex, or anything else, it’s important for partners to feel emotionally and physically comfortable.
The Teens: Let’s Talk section provides conversation starters for clinicians to use with their adolescent patients. On the same Healthy Relationships TALK Tool, these are:
- Which relationship characteristics (listed above) are most important to you?
- Do you have these things in your close relationships?
- Have you thought about your boundaries for physical touch?
- We can talk about setting and communicating about boundaries if that is helpful.
- If your boundaries have been crossed we can find supportive resources.
- What questions do you have about relationships?
- What information might be useful to you? We can look at the resources at the bottom of this page together to see what’s there.
“The TALK Tools were extremely helpful in getting teens to discuss topics they may have never felt comfortable discussing previously,” said one clinician.
Parental Engagement
The third section of each TALK Tool, Parents: Keep Talking, provides conversation starters for parents, to facilitate ongoing communication with their adolescents on important health topics. On the Healthy Relationships TALK Tool, these include:
- As a parent, your words and actions can help your teen form healthy relationships now and in adulthood. Keep talking about relationships. Say, “You deserve to be treated with respect. Trust your instincts.”
- Ask, “Do you see examples of healthy relationships among your friends? Any unhealthy ones? What do you notice?”
- Make a plan. Say, “If you ever feel unsafe or uncomfortable, text me [or another trusted adult]. I won’t ask you anything until the next day and I won’t try to make you tell me anything. I just want you to be safe.” Ask, “Where will you be? Who will be there? When will you be home?”
Normalizing Time Alone
While clinical guidelines from major medical associations recommend that adolescents have regular preventive visits that include time alone with their primary care clinician, only around 50% of U.S. teens report having had such time alone.
Interviews with parents have revealed that parents are generally comfortable with their teen having time alone if it is described developmentally (e.g., it is part of adolescents’ learning to take responsibility for their own health care) and if it is clear that time alone is a standard practice for all adolescents. Interviews with adolescents have made clear that they are comfortable with time alone but want an opt-out introduction to time alone (e.g., “Now I’ll have your parent step out, are you okay with that?”) not an opt-in (e.g., “Do you want your parent to leave the room?”).
In response to these stated needs, TALK offers clinicians a simple script for introducing time alone: “It’s great to see you both. Today, we will start by talking all together, then, [to the adolescent], as with all visits with patients your age, we will have a little time to talk one-on-one, and then we’ll invite your parent back in to wrap up together. [Adolescent], are you comfortable with that plan?”